Today is Father’s Day, a day when we celebrate our fathers, if we can. But many are fatherless these days; many never had a father growing up; many have missed something important, a father in the home.
Others, to be sure, can fill the role. Grandfathers, stepfathers, teachers. But what is the role of the father in the family?
I was fortunate to have grown up with a loving father. But when he lost his faith in God the Father around the time that I re-found my faith in God the Father, in a sense I became fatherless. For all that I had been taught, based on a Christian moral view of the world, was no longer a part of who he was. I had chosen a different path than he; at a cross-roads I turned toward God and my father turned away.
And so I gratefully turned to my Fathers-in-God in the Church.
A good father is a steady presence, reliable. A good father represents authority, in the Christian world, the wise, just, and merciful authority of God. He trains his children with patience and love to respect authority. He guides them, with the help of the Church, into righteousness, into living rightly. He provides shelter from storms and protection from the outside world, both literally and metaphorically. A good father keeps us safe on many levels.
Just so, we as a nation look to our founders, our history, to be protected from hostile enemies and natural disasters. For if we heed the centuries of fatherly advice, be it Church Fathers or Founding Fathers, successes or failures, we will thrive. We will have a way forward, a standard of measure – The Ten Commandments, the Rule of Law, the Golden Rule. We feed the hungry and heal the sick.
When we don’t measure up, we turn to the Church to be forgiven in the name of God the Father through his Son. And we pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and rejoin the path through time to Eternity.
It must be said that any authority exercised by humankind will be imperfect. But in America we have created a nation that has shown the best version of authority in the world, structured around the family, the community, the state, and the nation. The family is the foundation. The family trains the next generation, for it is a micro-society. If fatherless, the State fills the vacuum, and tyranny reigns.
And so it is of interest to totalitarian regimes to remove the father from the family, to break up the Judeo-Christian way that fathered Western Civilization, that best version of society and culture.
How is the father removed from the family?
The “sexual revolution” begun in the ‘sixties provided easy contraceptives. It seemed innocent enough at the time, and yet its trajectory over the next fifty hears removed marriage from the family, nullifying the father. Government policies stepped in and rewarded single parents, so fathers stayed away and fathered other crippled families dependent upon the authority of the State to survive. The government became the father substitute to these broken families, an authority that authorized the killing of the unborn, the maiming and the indoctrination of children.
Through it all the Church has preached the vital importance of families, the vital importance of fathers present.
And so today I salute fathers who have chosen the more difficult path, one of responsibility, one of learning how to love. I salute the mothers who have encouraged fathers in their role as authority figures, as creators of the ordered background necessary for children to thrive, and indeed, for mothers to thrive.
It is said that with the Industrial Revolution of the late eighteenth – early nineteenth century fathers no longer worked at home as farmers, or as tradesmen in the local village, but traveled to cities to work in factories, removed from their families. Women and children followed. The novelist Charles Dickens who worked as a boy in a shoe polish factory, never forgot those times and wrote about families caught in these tragic situations. Better protective laws were passed, but the family structure was severely crippled.
We have found in the Western World that any movement that harms the father’s role in the family, harms the nation. Any movement that denies gender, that denies marriage between a man and a woman, that discourages commitment and responsibility, but encourages men to be libertines, harms liberty and freedom.
And so we see the fruits of these trends today. What is the answer? We must look first to the father of all mankind, God the Father and see what he says through his Church and his Fathers-in-God, his pastors that truly shepherd us with his Word. We listen to the lessons each Sunday, and we encourage our priests and pastors as best we can.
We have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. We know our clergy are not perfect (don’t get me started) but then we also know that their congregations are not perfect, including you and me. So we celebrate mercy and withhold judgment. We hold them close to our hearts and prayers. For they are today’s fathers of the fatherless. Or should be.
And to those fathers who support and love their families, may the grace of God go with you daily, hourly, minute by minute. Do your best and learn from your mistakes. But don’t give up. Don’t abandon those who need you. Be a role model of quiet strength. You are raising the next generation. We need you.
You, along with the mothers of your children, must forge a new foundation in our world, must celebrate our Founding Fathers as you worship God the Father. We are grateful. We are thankful.
We love you.
Christine Sunderland
Christine Sunderland 